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I’m Driving.

This slice is part of the March Slice of Life Challenge on  Two Writing Teachers! #sol26. I’m slicing every day in March. Thanks for stopping by!

I am driving. And I am writing in my head because what else can you do when it is dark and all the kids are sleeping?

So I am writing.

And skipping from song to song on my shuffled playlist, wondering why there are no good songs.

And I am lying to myself at every exit sign… telling myself I’ll just wait for a good place to stop and make a hotel reservation, and maybe write this for real.

Finally after an hour and a half I think to myself, “The next exit with a few choices that I can see, I will stop there!”

And a minute later, I see the Sheetz sign.

And even though we are still like 8 hours from home, I feel like we are close.

The kids wake up, and we buy weird late night sandwiches. Then we go between groggy silence and ridiculous conversation as I make a hotel reservation, and write this.

“Are you okay?” My daughter asks me?

“Yea. I’m just writing my slice,” I say, because in March… in March I have my priorities.

I mean, hours ago I made my daughter take a picture of the truck in front of us because it said TWT and I felt it was a reminder to write and post…on Two Writing Teachers!

We Are At the Beach.

This slice is part of the March Slice of Life Challenge on  Two Writing Teachers! #sol26. I’m slicing every day in March. Thanks for stopping by!

We are at the beach.
We are busying ourselves here at the beach.
Trying hard to think only positive thoughts about our Finn.
Watched a funny movie all snuggled in my bed last night.
Worked out this morning, then the pool.
In between we sat in the sun of the rental’s backyard.
I told the kids to pretend for a minute that they believe in intention setting and energy.
We sat and just thought about Finn.
We imagined ourselves next to him in his doggy hospital bed.
We imagined seeing him healthy in a few days, wagging his tail like nothing had happened.
I can’t speak for the kids, but I imagined petting his soft soft ears.
And I told him very lovingly but sternly that the people he is with are taking care of him. He might not be having fun but he needs to do everything they tell him to do, and then we will see him soon.
After he gets better, he can run around and play with his best friend.
His best friend’s person visited him today.
He wagged his tail so hard his bandage flung across the room.
She snuggled him and pet his soft, soft ears.
She told him that the people he is with are taking care of him. She told him he can come play as soon as he’s all better.
We spent the last few hours on the sand.
The kids took a walk.
I read.
I gazed at the turquoise water.
I told the little birds that landed next to me to please send some prayers to Finn.
We are at the beach.
I kept repeating it to myself.
We are at the beach.
We are at the beach.

Oh, Did That Embarrass You?

This slice is part of the March Slice of Life Challenge on  Two Writing Teachers! #sol26. I’m slicing every day in March. Thanks for stopping by!

I’ve been made fun of for a lot of things in my life.
This isn’t a sob story – I mean, obviously it has made me who I am today. Character and all that.

But, it is probably the reason why when my kids make fun of me …

I don’t really care.

I mean, so what if I talk to strangers when we are out?

Even the ones who are in the golf cart behind me as I try to figure out what I’m supposed to do if the parking lot ahead of me is full, and I don’t really know where to go in our golf cart at the moment.

“Sorry!” I yelled from my golf cart to theirs.

“It’s my first time! Here and in one of these things! And I’m not sure where to go next!

They yelled back to me, assuring me they were in the same boat (or cart, I guess) as me.

It felt like a friendly interaction, but boy oh boy were the kids annoyed. One of them claims that my speaking to strangers is damaging to them.

I think maybe since they don’t get made fun of as much as I did as a kid, I owe some embarrassment to them to help build their character…

I am glad they had already gone down to the beach though, when I was finally parking. I thought there was a spot, but it was a handicap spot. Just as I was figuring out how to turn the golf cart around, a man walked by and said, “I’m about to take my cart out of this spot if you are looking for a spot!”

And what did I say? Nothing crazy. It was a perfectly normal response.

I said, “Oh my god. I love you. Thank you.”

He was fine with it, laughed and said “You’re welcome.”

But the kids? they would have been devastated to hear me proclaim my love to the stranger who gave me his parking spot. It might have ruined this vacation I’ve taken them on.

No Men, No Money

This slice is part of the March Slice of Life Challenge on  Two Writing Teachers! #sol26. I’m slicing every day in March. Thanks for stopping by!

Yesterday we were making dinner when the garbage disposal stopped working. It just hummed a little hum, not a care in the world.
I looked at my daughter and I think she saw the absolute “no effing way,” in my face.

“Is it bad if we say this is an after spring break problem?” she asked.

“Nope. That’s what it is,” I said, “an after spring break problem.“

But I fiddled with it anyway, tried the little reset button on the bottom. But, it still just hummed its little hum.

So after checking multiple times that the switch was off, I stuck my hand in there and quickly realized the problem. There was a glass wedged in, unmovable.

She stuck her hand in too. (After checking that the switch was off. Why are garbage disposals so scary?)

“How are we going to get this out?” She said.

There was no way to get that glass out. It was perfectly stuck.

“Not to be misogynistic or anything…” she started saying, “but isn’t this where we maybe…”

I started wondering who you call and what they would do.

“I guess we pay someone to fix it.” I said with absolute disdain. I mean, what would they do? Take the whole thing apart? Hundreds of dollars later they would have the glass and my disposal would work again?

“Or…” I said as I picked up the nearby ruler that I had finally brought inside from when it was measuring our latest snowfall.

I stabbed the ruler into the disposal a few times, broke that glass, and took out all the pieces.

I made sure all the glass was out, rinsed out the sink and turned on the disposal and heard the tell tale working whirr.

Fixed!

“No men needed!” My daughter said.

“No men and no money!” I agreed. “That’s a life lesson I want you to remember. You don’t need men or money.”

Then we laughed and finished making dinner.

**Yes, next time I’ll turn the actual power to the kitchen off. Yikes.”

Not Technically a Luck Dragon

This slice is part of the March Slice of Life Challenge on  Two Writing Teachers! #sol26. I’m slicing every day in March. Thanks for stopping by!

Sometimes my dog looks like Falkor from Never Ending Story.
Hear me out.
He might be black and grey, not white and pink…
I get it. Finn is not
technically
a luck dragon.
But, it’s all there,
in his face.

Every so often one of us reminds the rest of us about this.
Okay, it’s usually me reminding the kids.
But, recently it was my daughter, reminding me.
We looked at him, as he lay forlornly under the kitchen table, in what seemed to be the exact way Falkor rested.
Waiting.
Wise.

I asked him if he was really Falkor in disguise and he started wagging his tail.
I started singing The Never Ending story to him and he quickly got up, stretched, walked over to me and leaned against my leg.
This worked several times.
I have a witness.

“The never ending stoooorrry…. Ah-ah-ah-ah-ah-ah…”
Tail wag.
Saunter over.
Lean in.

However.
When my 16 year old came home that very night, and I said,
“Watch this!
The never ending stoooorrry…. Ah-ah-ah-ah-ah-ah…”

Finn just continued to nest himself into the couch.

“This is embarrassing for you,” my son said.
And I kept singing, “The Never Ending story…”
“Oh mom. This is so embarrassing. For you.”

“I’m not embarrassed.” I told him,
in between “ah-ah-ah-ah’s.”

“It’s really embarrassing for you.” he insisted.

I tried to tell him that you can’t tell someone that
they are embarrassed.

But, he’s sixteen, and there’s really no point.

He is very
committed
to the story that
I
am constantly embarrassed,
and embarrassing.

In fact, you could say, it’s a never ending story.
Ah-ah-ah-ah-ah-ah…

My luck dragon, Finn.
The Luck Dragon, Falkor

So Many Things To Miss

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the other day there was a facebook memory where I was half complaining about the constant rocking and nursing of a baby in the middle of the night, and half knowing that “one day I will miss this.”
you know, I was right. I do
miss that.
so many things to miss, you know?
toddlers with sticky fingers
loud days
snuggling
first days of elementary school
even those times when I had to help 3 kids in 3 different schools, in 3 different grades do homework while I taught remotely have taken on a sort of sentimental quality
(okay, I don’t miss 2020, but you know what I mean)
all those long days
make short years
and there are just so many things to
miss
now
but I think I’m ready to go on record
to officially say
that in 6 years when I no longer have to do it
anymore
I will
NOT
miss
filling out the FAFSA
and doing financial aid paperwork
at all.

School Night

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I took my son back to school tonight — fall break is over.
We talked about egoism and empathy for most of the trip. But, with five minutes of the ride left, I gave him some reminders.
I think he
really appreciated my sound bites of advice.
18 year-olds usually do.
“I get a hug!” I said, as we pulled into the parking lot, and he said, “Okay, but it has to before I grab all my stuff.”
Spoiler alert: I gave him one hug before
and one after.
Plus, as he crossed the street, I yelled,
”Goodbye! I love you!”
And he said it return.
I win!
I drove back, betrayed Sheetz for a
Wawa coffee stop —
which I like better, I have to admit, Wawa coffee.
Maybe it’s nostalgia, I don’t know.
Now I’m home,
in time for bed.
I’m hoping the melatonin wins against the coffee
on this school night.





What is 22?

22 is one more than 21
that big important birthday everyone gets all excited about
but you don’t even really like to drink
you’d rather make tea which you keep adding bags and more water to for hours
before heading off to bed

22 is 2 elevens
which is, you know
middle school
not anyone’s finest hour, but somehow you were still you
not still the quiet preschooler,
not yet the confident young woman
just sweet enough to get away with the snippy of early adolescence

22 is 11 twos
two they call terrible
but you were mostly just the
most adorable you could ever imagine
with those cute red stripes on your pajamas
and the curl of your hair
your voice figuring out all the words
and you already loving to draw and make playdoh creations
mostly with Granny
You did always want a banana as a bed time snack, which you wanted to peel yourself, but couldn’t.
“Nin nana!” You would demand. You called yourself Nin.
I guess I remember a few terrible tantrums about that. I used to try to sneak help you – digging my nail into the place right under the banana stem and praying you didn’t notice
You mostly noticed.
Like you noticed if I started to fall asleep reading about Charlie Mouse in the Richard Scary book we read every night.
“You made a mistake!” You’d laugh at me, and for some reason that became a demand for the book. You wanted me to make a mistake, or the book wasn’t worth reading anymore.

22 is 22 ones
when you were one you toddled around
nursed to sleep each night
probably waking up
a lot – remember you were a backwards sleeping baby
Slept through the night until 4 months or so, and then never again as a baby
you talked
somewhere I have a list of all the words you said at that age
”mo,” when you wanted more, and
at some point that year you started calling grapes “erdeps.”
“Nin, mo erdeps?”

22 is 1 twenty-two
Makes no sense
because you were just a baby
doing that baby elbow stretch
in your zip up pajamas
attached to me all day
and now you are this actual grown up
a friend
who makes me tea
and makes me proud

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Tulips for Mary

Tulips for Mary

They filled the vases with tulips, red, orange, yellow, bright
Her favorite flowers, of course they bloomed in spring
The bouquets now brought a sort of comfort to the night

There were candles, too, flickering a calming light
Pictures laid on tables, memories of everything
They filled the vases with tulips, red, orange, yellow, bright

Tall candlesticks she painted, colorful with height
People in a line, hoping company could lessen the sting
The bouquets now brought a sort of comfort to the night

Her favorite orange, in tulips signify a zest for life
And she would want us to wear joy, not a mourning ring
They filled the vases with tulips, red, orange, yellow, bright

Tulips are for those you love with all your might
For husbands, wives, siblings and offspring
The bouquets now brought a sort of comfort to the night

Tulips lined the funeral home, to remind all to delight
Grieving loved ones swirled out the door, her life celebrating
They filled the vases with tulips, red, orange, yellow, bright
The bouquets now brought a sort of comfort to the night

It’s April, so I’m writing. Today from an EthicalELA prompt from a few days ago: Villanelle on the Vine It’s not perfect, but it’s my first Villanelle. And since I grew up with Mary as my second mom, mom of my best friend, and I can remember her telling me my drawings didn’t need to be perfect, I think she would be okay with me just giving this a solid try.

Depending on When You Met Me

Depending on when you met me
I’ve been
a daughter, a sister, a friend
a girlfriend, a wife –
until that came to an end
I’ve been a mother, now I’ll always be one

Depending on when you met me
I might have been a new mom, a mom of 1 or 2 or 3
A mom of young kids, home on family rearing leave,
or teaching, somehow teaching with babies at home.
If you didn’t meet me then, you wouldn’t have known –
My kids used to love to hang out with me, before they were grown

Depending on when you met me?
I mean, wow. Me?
I’ve been a babysitter, a daycare worker, a teacher, of course
a coach.
until that came to an end
then a teacher again
somewhere in there my kids grew up and my husband betrayed me

Depending on when you met me
I might have been crying a lot
or laughing a lot
writing a lot
I bet you want more details
Depending on when you met me

It’s April, so I’m writing poetry. Inspiration today from Depending When You Met Me on EthicalELA