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#sol18 March 26 A slice of Someday Maybe

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I am participating in the March Slice of Life Challenge: A slice a day for all of March.  You should do it too!  Thank you, Two Writing Teachers! Readers, check out their site, and start slicing! 

Someday you might be the mom racing into school right on time. Maybe your kids will drag their feet,  maybe it will be you. Maybe a combination. Maybe nobody will listen the first few times you say it’s time to pack their lunches, get their shoes, put away the iPad they aren’t even supposed to have out in the morning… Maybe nobody will listen the fifth time you say it either. Maybe nobody will ever listen to you again.

Someday you might be the mom who uses your lunch break to walk the dog, make some popcorn for lunch, and stuff your kids’ karate things into bags before heading back to school. Maybe popcorn for lunch will seem normal to you.

Someday you might be the mom racing out of school, 8 year old racing along with you. Maybe you’ll have to pick up your 9th grader and somehow get to your 11 year old’s volleyball tournament at the high school. Maybe it will be next to impossible for you to park. Maybe you’ll be stuck behind buses, have to turn around on a side street, and then be stuck behind more buses. Maybe you’ll park just as a high school student gets to his car. Maybe he’ll open his doors, blocking your daughter in her seat. Maybe you’ll have to smile and ask him to move.

Someday you might be the mom getting your kids to karate half an hour late. Maybe the volleyball tournament went a little longer than you had planned for. Maybe your kids were starving after that so you had to stop for a quick snack. Maybe little containers of apples and pretzels will be the healthiest thing you can get them. Maybe your kids will bicker in the car, and beg to not have to even go to Karate because they are tired, sick, late anyway. Maybe you’ll drink too much seltzer water, maybe you’ll find a parking space, maybe you won’t.

Someday you might be the mom stopping by your own parents’ house after the first karate class. Maybe you’ll have your youngest with you. Maybe you’ll let him use your phone to play a game. Maybe when you mom says, “What can I get you?” You’ll say “What are you offering?” Maybe you’ll eat her homemade vegan chili without feeling guilty. Maybe you’ll have a secret wish that your parents had a homemade soup delivery service.

Someday you might be the mom who fails the early bedtime almost every night. Maybe you’ll be the mom who snuggles each kid, plus the dog, and then the kittens. Maybe you’ll stick to your no snacks after the kids go to bed, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll catch up on your work when the house is quiet, maybe you’ll finish your dystopian book. Maybe you’ll go to bed on time, or maybe you’ll play with the kittens first.

Who knows!

#sol18 March 25 A sunny Sunday celebration slice (from my chair)

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I am participating in the March Slice of Life Challenge: A slice a day for all of March.  You should do it too!  Thank you, Two Writing Teachers! Readers, check out their site, and start slicing! I’m also celebrating with Ruth Ayres today! 

I sit to write at a sunny window. It’s quiet-ish around here, and I look around. From my chair, I see some lovely Sunday celebrations. I see…

H sitting next to me, his mini paper towels are complete, and he’s working on his mini Harry Potter Book. He sits chatting and singing Into the Woods songs, making miniatures.

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Finn,  somehow still downstairs, not staring at the the bedroom door trying to sniff out the kittens. He sees something outside and leaps to our rescue. I don’t know what it was. A bird? A neighbor? A leaf? We will never know.

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E,  drawing monsters in the kitchen. He has pages and pages of creative monsters he’s drawn. They have strengths, weights, evolutions, and awesome names. So many details, so much color.

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Things don’t stay the way they are for long. That’s the only thing that’s constant around here: Change.

E was frustrated with his pictures, he’s taking a break from his coloring. H is done with this miniature book, he’s searching for his next project. Finn is finally tired out enough to rest on his couch in the sun. (As he should be, since I took him out for a 2 hour walk…) And that, friends, is something to truly celebrate.

 

#sol18 March 24 Before That… Kitten Edition

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I am participating in the March Slice of Life Challenge: A slice a day for all of March.  You should do it too!  Thank you, Two Writing Teachers! Readers, check out their site, and start slicing! 

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Home to slice, before I go hang out with my dog, and then snuggle the new kittens.

Before that, we went out to dinner. I confess, I mostly wanted to go to get a little break from our dog, Finnegan whining about the new kittens.

 

Before that, we spent time trying to get Finnegan to calm down at the closed door where the kittens were playing.

Before that, I took Finn on an hour walk, hoping to tire him out a little.

Before that, Finnegan was crying at the door and straining at his leash to see those kittens.

Before that, we had the dog sniff the carrier holding a fluffy orange and white kitten. He stared a little, whined a little, and lunged a little. Fluffy kitten didn’t care — Didn’t even flinch.

Before that, we took the tiny tabby kitten in her carrier towards the house. Finn sniffed, and the cat hissed. She was scared!

Before that, we drove 2 kittens home from the shelter.

Before that, we sat at the shelter deciding. We knew we wanted the orange and white cat, but the little tabby sat on my chest, all curled in. She was purring.

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Before that, we walked in. The kids went to the orange and white fluffy cat they knew they wanted. A little tiny tabby cat stared up at me, so I picked her up.

Before that, the shelter volunteers told us two cats was better than one, and that it didn’t matter if we got one later.

Before that, we took our one pet carrier out of the car and walked into the shelter. We only needed one. Because we were only getting one kitten. The orange and white fluffy one.

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Before that, the pet supply store people told us that we should get one cat now and two cats later, rather than two cats now and one cat later.

Before that, I took a deep breath, reminded the kids that it was going to be a lot of work training Finnegan to ignore any new kittens.

Before that, the kids did so many things to remind me that they needed kittens. I didn’t argue. I  need cats in my life too!

Before that, I saw a quote online. “Sometimes the best way to honor the life of the pet you lost is to save another. . . Don’t wait too long, a shelter animal is waiting for you…”

Before that, we were a home without cats for the first time in a long time.

Before that, Susie passed away.

Before that, Billy passed away.

 

#Sol18 March 21 Spring Snow Day

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I am participating in the March Slice of Life Challenge: A slice a day for all of March.  You should do it too!  Thank you, Two Writing Teachers! Readers, check out their site, and start slicing! 

Spring Snow Day: A day in a few words

Delay!
Cancelled!
Yay!

Coffee?
Coffee?
Coffee?

Clean
Your
Stuff.

Chores?
No!
Chores!

Whine?
Too
Much.

Wine?
Too
Early.

Chores?
No!
Chores!

Ignored
Annoyed
Tired

Roads?
Clear
Enough.

Lunch
Shop
Home

Vet
Karate
Grandparents

Home
Snack
Write

Clean
Your
Stuff!

Hope
Bedtime’s
Soon.

#Sol18 March 19 We don’t want to write tonight

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I am participating in the March Slice of Life Challenge: A slice a day for all of March.  You should do it too!  Thank you, Two Writing Teachers! Readers, check out their site, and start slicing! 

We don't want to write tonight 
A poem in two voices
by Me and H

We don't want to write tonight. 
I know, I'm so tired. 
Let's just write it together and get it done. 
Ok.
What slice of life did we share today?
Wait, what? What slice of life did we share today?
What part of life did we share together that we could write about together?
Our brakes were stuck, we went to the park. 
I wasn't there. 
You picked us up from Starbucks. 
I did!
You came to my classroom. 
I did!
I made those hockey sticks. 
You did. 
We're writing this slice!
WE ARE! 

Co-written with my son, H and co-posted on his classroom slice of life

#Sol18 March 18 Daily in March

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I am participating in the March Slice of Life Challenge: A slice a day for all of March.  You should do it too!  Thank you, Two Writing Teachers! Readers, check out their site, and start slicing! 

Daily, in March 
I write
make coffee
do dishes
do some laundry
ask the kids to please help 
     Please, clean their rooms
I go to bed too late
I shun sugar
I sneak some sugar
I make more coffee
I try to drink a lot of water

E checks the countdown to Easter and then countdown to summer
L asks to go look at the cats and dogs at the shelter soon 
H sits and slices
The kids ask for us to "please pay just $2.00 for a new game"
We ask the kids to "please take the dog for a walk"

We work
our to do list grows
our kids grow

Thankfully we also laugh
Daily, in March

 

#Sol18 March 17 A bakery slice

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I am participating in the March Slice of Life Challenge: A slice a day for all of March.  You should do it too!  Thank you, Two Writing Teachers! Readers, check out their site, and start slicing! 

When your 14 year old invites a friend for spa day,
they will ask to make cupcakes too.

When they pick a cupcake recipe,
you will need to go to the grocery store.

When you go to the grocery store,
your 11 year old will want to bake too.

When he chooses to make oatmeal raisin cookies
you will ask him to make them vegan.

When the vegan cookies come out of the oven,
you will eat too many.

When you eat too many cookies,
you will be happy that the cupcakes aren’t vegan.

When you look at your bakery kitchen,
you will want to cry.

When you want to cry,
that doesn’t mean anyone will clean it up for you.

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#Sol18 March 15 I Remember

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She’s 14 now. I love the 14 year old L, and I will love her forever.  But, I still wish I could go back in time.

I remember sitting in our hand-me-down armchair, with my tiny newborn baby girl. It was dark everywhere else but the little lamp by the chair.

I remember the weight of her. You know when your are little and you love to play with dolls? And you love when the doll feels like a real baby? The actual weight of a real baby ends up even more perfect than you could have imagined.

I remember her head rested just below my shoulder.

I remember I was so tired, but I also knew that cozy time was fleeting.

I remember the feeling when I decided to try to put her back in her co-sleeper. Sometimes she would wake up and I’d end up nursing her back to sleep. Sometimes she’d let out that little newborn squeak and settle in.

I remember falling asleep on that chair, reading a book one-handed on that chair, listening to my husband snore.

I remember I tried to capture the feeling.

I remember her soft soft head, her little hands.

I remember.

But, I still wish I could go back in time.

#Sol18 March 14 What Would You March For?

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I am participating in the March Slice of Life Challenge: A slice a day for all of March.  You should do it too!  Thank you, Two Writing Teachers! Readers, check out their site, and start slicing!

 

7:00 AM

“Why isn’t our school doing a walk out?” H asked me this morning after he heard his 9th grade sister talking about her school’s plan. “It’s stupid. I’m walking out.” 

I didn’t think I’d be the kind of adult who would pause at this. But, I did. 

“Well, why would you walk out?” 

He paused this time. He knew a little bit of information, but not a ton. I wondered aloud if he might be trying to get out of class, or just do something cool. He denied this, but still didn’t have any sort of passionate or informed set  of reasons why he would walk out. 

“You can’t just leave school.” I said matter-of-factly. “The schools that are doing that have it set up. There will be extra security. You can’t just walk out of your elementary school by yourself.” 

Why? I wondered. I felt like The Children’s March documentary was playing in the back of my head. I wondered what kind of person I was to tell my own son not to stand up for something. I believe in peaceful protest, gatherings, memorials. I believe in students, children, hope. 

I tried to articulate my feelings as we went back and forth about the very idea of a walk out. Who plans it? Does it belong in elementary school? Should Kindergarten kids do it? What does it mean to protest? 

If I tell him not to do this, what kind of person does that make me? Should he do it anyway? Would Dumbledore give him house points for that?

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I decided honesty was my best bet. “I’m going to be with your principal all day in a meeting. I’m going to be sitting there when he gets the phone call that you walked out of school. If you tell me that you have thought a lot about this, and feel passionate about it, I’ll back you up– 100%. If you aren’t quite sure why you want to do it, then I’m not sure what I can say. Plus, I’m worried about your safety just walking out of school by yourself in the middle of the day.” 

What do I mean? We live in this neighborhood. He would probably be fine walking outside the school building for 17 minutes. But what would he do? Sit there? Does he even have his watch? Would he get in trouble? Would that be ok? Does he care that much about this issue that I care so much about… even though I’ve barely talked to him about it at all?

He looked at me and thought a bit. “What if I sit out at recess for 17 minutes. I’ll try to get other kids to do that with me.” 

“That’s something I would be very proud of.” I said. And, I meant it. 

1:14 PM

Messages from his teacher, like poetry. 

"Got some people to join." 
"Now they are marching." 
"Moment of Silence." 

4:00 

At home I can’t wait to hear the whole story.  “I’m so proud of you. Tell me all about it.”  

H told me that he sat down, someone joined him so he explained why he was sitting. Then more kids joined, and more. They decided to walk (“It is a walk out…” they realized),  they read the names of the 17 kids. At some point there was research about who these 17 victims were.  Apparently there was even a short speech by H. Or, so the story goes.

I can’t wait to get the whole story from his teacher.  

“Did you slice about it?” I asked. 

“Not yet. Tomorrow. I’ll definitely slice about it tomorrow.” 

“Well, I have to slice about it today, you know.”

“I know.”

 

7:00

We ask the kids, “What are the highlights of your day?”

H says right away, “Well, like I said. I was really proud of how I got a lot of people to join in a memorial for the 17 kids.” 

And then we had a beautiful conversation about the issues surrounding today’s #NationalStudentWalkout. H was more informed and passionate than he had been this morning. He had learned so much. He had researched! He had spoken about it! He had taken action! 

“What do you think about the grown ups on social media who are saying that kids shouldn’t walk out, that students don’t know enough, that kids shouldn’t challenge authority?” 

It was a proud moment for me when my own children looked at me perplexed.

“Why would they say that?”

“That’s stupid.”

“Get a life.” (The teenager said this, and I was even oddly proud of her sass.)

Well, grown ups on social media.. .  I know what I think. My 11 year old who started the day with a vague idea that there was something to march for? He ended the day a proud change maker in training. He learned about issues of school safety, guns, Second Amendment rights, current events, civil rights, and civil disobedience.

He researched. He spoke. He took action.

He learned the power of being a positive leader.

"Got some people to join." 
"Now they are marching." 
"Moment of Silence."