#Sol18 March 14 What Would You March For?

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7:00 AM

“Why isn’t our school doing a walk out?” H asked me this morning after he heard his 9th grade sister talking about her school’s plan. “It’s stupid. I’m walking out.” 

I didn’t think I’d be the kind of adult who would pause at this. But, I did. 

“Well, why would you walk out?” 

He paused this time. He knew a little bit of information, but not a ton. I wondered aloud if he might be trying to get out of class, or just do something cool. He denied this, but still didn’t have any sort of passionate or informed set  of reasons why he would walk out. 

“You can’t just leave school.” I said matter-of-factly. “The schools that are doing that have it set up. There will be extra security. You can’t just walk out of your elementary school by yourself.” 

Why? I wondered. I felt like The Children’s March documentary was playing in the back of my head. I wondered what kind of person I was to tell my own son not to stand up for something. I believe in peaceful protest, gatherings, memorials. I believe in students, children, hope. 

I tried to articulate my feelings as we went back and forth about the very idea of a walk out. Who plans it? Does it belong in elementary school? Should Kindergarten kids do it? What does it mean to protest? 

If I tell him not to do this, what kind of person does that make me? Should he do it anyway? Would Dumbledore give him house points for that?

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I decided honesty was my best bet. “I’m going to be with your principal all day in a meeting. I’m going to be sitting there when he gets the phone call that you walked out of school. If you tell me that you have thought a lot about this, and feel passionate about it, I’ll back you up– 100%. If you aren’t quite sure why you want to do it, then I’m not sure what I can say. Plus, I’m worried about your safety just walking out of school by yourself in the middle of the day.” 

What do I mean? We live in this neighborhood. He would probably be fine walking outside the school building for 17 minutes. But what would he do? Sit there? Does he even have his watch? Would he get in trouble? Would that be ok? Does he care that much about this issue that I care so much about… even though I’ve barely talked to him about it at all?

He looked at me and thought a bit. “What if I sit out at recess for 17 minutes. I’ll try to get other kids to do that with me.” 

“That’s something I would be very proud of.” I said. And, I meant it. 

1:14 PM

Messages from his teacher, like poetry. 

"Got some people to join." 
"Now they are marching." 
"Moment of Silence." 

4:00 

At home I can’t wait to hear the whole story.  “I’m so proud of you. Tell me all about it.”  

H told me that he sat down, someone joined him so he explained why he was sitting. Then more kids joined, and more. They decided to walk (“It is a walk out…” they realized),  they read the names of the 17 kids. At some point there was research about who these 17 victims were.  Apparently there was even a short speech by H. Or, so the story goes.

I can’t wait to get the whole story from his teacher.  

“Did you slice about it?” I asked. 

“Not yet. Tomorrow. I’ll definitely slice about it tomorrow.” 

“Well, I have to slice about it today, you know.”

“I know.”

 

7:00

We ask the kids, “What are the highlights of your day?”

H says right away, “Well, like I said. I was really proud of how I got a lot of people to join in a memorial for the 17 kids.” 

And then we had a beautiful conversation about the issues surrounding today’s #NationalStudentWalkout. H was more informed and passionate than he had been this morning. He had learned so much. He had researched! He had spoken about it! He had taken action! 

“What do you think about the grown ups on social media who are saying that kids shouldn’t walk out, that students don’t know enough, that kids shouldn’t challenge authority?” 

It was a proud moment for me when my own children looked at me perplexed.

“Why would they say that?”

“That’s stupid.”

“Get a life.” (The teenager said this, and I was even oddly proud of her sass.)

Well, grown ups on social media.. .  I know what I think. My 11 year old who started the day with a vague idea that there was something to march for? He ended the day a proud change maker in training. He learned about issues of school safety, guns, Second Amendment rights, current events, civil rights, and civil disobedience.

He researched. He spoke. He took action.

He learned the power of being a positive leader.

"Got some people to join." 
"Now they are marching." 
"Moment of Silence." 

 

#Sol18 March 13 Quick trip to the grocery store

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Quick trip to the grocery store

Walking through the aisles I see
my cart filling with carrots, potatoes, broccoli, cauliflower,colorful peppers, one cucumber, red grapes, blackberries, strawberries, lemons. . .
I pick up hummus, Beyond Meat Chicken Free Strips, coconut milk yogurt, dried mangos
(some tortilla chips too!)

On my way to get granola, I see
a student and his mom from years ago
“Hello!” I say, smiling to see how tall he has gotten since sixth grade
“Ms. Thought?” He asks. “I didn’t expect to see you here!”
His mom smiles, “Well, she has to grocery shop too.”

From my place at the grocery checkout I see
my organic vegan food being bagged
and I wonder
will I ever remember to bring my reusable bags?
and, what kind of person am I?

About to leave, I look over and I see
the college students I had noticed before
their giant jar of giant pickles is easy to remember
and I chuckle to see their giant peanut butter, multiple boxes of minute rice, trays of meat – but also some hummus.

At my car, I see
my plastic bags loaded into my Prius
and the irony is not lost on me
I will reuse and recycle these bags
but, that’s not enough to save the planet, so I’ll try harder next time.

#Sol18 March 12 Assessment Lessons

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Assessment Lessons from E’s yellow stripe Tae Kwon Do Test today

  1. Encourage your class.
    You have worked so hard! You guys can do this.”
  2. Frame the test for your students so they know what’s happening.
    “Do you know what’s going to happen today? We are going to do your kicks, blocks, punches and forms.” 
  3. Coach when possible, give learners the nudge they need.
    “Straighten your arm!”
  4. Give students more than one chance.
    “Which was your worst form just now? Come up here and try again.”
  5. Involve students with feedback.
    What do you think your best was today? What about your worst?”
  6. Help students make goals.
    “What do you think you should work on practicing now?” 
  7. Rituals and celebrations are important.
    “Line up here, we will put the yellow stripe on the left side of your belt. Congratulations!” 

#Sol18 March 11 Sundays around here. . .

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Sundays around here. . . 

We aren’t so good at Sundays
when our break just expired.

We aren’t so good at chores
when we’re traveler tired.

We aren’t so good at homework
when we waited a week to start.

We aren’t so good at grocery shopping
when we keep buying a la carte

We aren’t so good at laundry
when it’s piled up with socks.

We aren’t so good at bedtimes
when we had to change the clocks.

We aren’t so good at vacations
when they are at their end.

We aren’t so good at school
when we’re not ready for it again.

 

#Sol18 March 10 Honest-E

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Yesterday I sat outside brainstorming some ideas for a picture book. I read a few ideas aloud to my kids.

“Wait” L said, “Is this another picture book you are writing?” She was incredulous.

I explained, “Yep! I want to write as much as I can.” Then I turned to E. “What do you think? Do you think this will make a good book?”

He scrunched up his face. “Well, maybe like an 8 1/2 out of 10. I don’t want to be mean, mommy… But, I think it would be better if, you know, a professional author published it.”

“Well, that’s what I want to do! I want to get books published… then I would be an author…”

He looked at me, still with doubt written in the crinkles of his forehead.

“Do you think it would make a good book if I got it published?” I asked. “Would you be proud?”

“So proud.” He beamed.

I told him how I thought it would be cool if I came to his class to read a book aloud that I actually wrote.

Smiling, E said, “I can imagine Mrs. Wilson introducing you to the class. ‘Ms. Ona is here with a special surprise!'”

We laughed at the thought.

I didn’t feel like it was the right time to mention that even if this dream comes true, he won’t be in second grade anymore by the time there’s an actual book in our hands.  I just wanted to enjoy his proud smile for a bit.

 

#Sol18 March 9 If I’m going to be a writer

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If I'm going to be a writer

I need a room of my own
or at least a quiet desk somewhere
if I'm going to be a writer. 

I need a time of my own
or at least a quiet 20 minutes sometimes
if I'm going to be a writer. 

I need a daily walk of my own 
or at least a quiet walk with the dog
if I'm going to be a writer. 

I need a way to finish my thoughts
or at least a way to start them
if I'm going to be a writer. 

I need a handy writer's notebook
or at least a corner of a page
if I'm going to be a writer. 

I need a bunch of revisions
or at least a few harsh critiques
if I'm going to be a writer. 

I need to send a query letter
or at least do more than a twitter pitch
if I'm going to be a writer.

I need to live a writerly life
or at least a few writerly minutes
if I'm going to be a writer.

#Sol18 March 8 Distractions

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Distractions. I have written, deleted, and been interrupted more in the last 2 hours than I can possibly describe. Someone needs a snack, someone wants to play a game, someone wants to go back on the beach to look for rocks. Someone has a story to tell me. Someone wants to know when I will be done, when I will make dinner, when I will play a game, can we watch a movie? If I had any ability to concentrate I’d tell you in more detail. I’m sure it would make a heartwarming, humorous tale. Vacations with 3 kids always do. Right?

It feels like I’ve been sitting here forever trying to write. I sat listening to the ocean, watching the waves through the deck doors.

I thought I might try a list poem: vacation or trip?/shells/rocks/interruptions/cold breeze/waves crash. . . .But, it wasn’t just my family distracting me… I was distracted by the shadow of a song being played in the back of my mind. What is that song? A squeaky guitar, almost spoken word singing a kind of list? It was on a mixtape. I ask my mixtape high school friends,  I google all sorts of search words.  No success. Shouldn’t my brain work better than this?

I won’t write a list poem today. I may never find out what that song was. But, I will make dinner, do the dishes, look at new shell collections, play a game, find a family movie, and put kids to bed.

Ahhhh. Vacation.

 

 

#Sol18 March 7 All in a day: the beach

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All in a day: the beach
(6 word memoir slices of vacation)

sunrise coffee with chilly beach view
fresh doughnuts eaten before seagulls land
comfort sad children on sound walkway
watch kids play, find free library
browse beach tchotchkes but don't buy 
restaurant's first ever "Is sauce vegetarian?"
get bunches of "Thank you ma'ams" 
bundle up, sit on beach, read
bundle up, sit on deck, write



#Sol18 March 6 March Madness

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I love overhearing conversations in the car, when somehow the kids don’t seem to remember that I can hear them while I’m driving. When my 8 year old who loves to read (E) and my 11 year old who hates to read (H) talk about books, it’s even better.

E: Are you doing the March Madness books in your class?
H: Oh yea.
E: Which ones have you read already?
H: So many. I’ve read Ghost, Restart, Love that Dog. . .  
E looks confused so… I interject: E is talking about the picture books, H also read the novels.
E: Which grades read the picture book ones?
Me: Well, the whole school can do the picture books, but some of the older kids are also reading the chapter books.
E: Oh. Well, which picture books have you read? We have done It’s not Jack in the Beanstalk, and that one won over Each Kindness. I hate that book because the ending! It just ends! 
H: Well, it’s a good book. It has a great message…it just has a weird ending.
E: She just goes away!
H: It just doesn’t really have a climax or a resolution. I mean it has a conflict, but it’s not really a problem-solution kind of shaped plot. It’s like problem-problem-problem!

Sometimes, your 11 year old who hates to read accidentally lets it slip that one, he’s been reading, and two, he’s been learning a lot about reading. When that happens,  just keep driving: Eyes ahead, no comment… pretend you didn’t hear. It’s for the best. Instead just take a deep breath and silently thank his teacher and the creators of March Madness. He might never be a book lover. . but he’s growing! 

 

#Sol18 March 5

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On my way to Wegmans, I thought I’d stop by Kohl’s to get Mr. Thought a pair of much needed sneakers. To get to our Kohl’s, you drive by Target, then by an odd empty parking lot first. That odd empty parking lot is where I noticed 3 police cars as one of them drove away. Quickly.

“Hmmm.” I thought as I watched the car go into the Kohl’s parking lot.

And then the other cars sped over too.

Not sure what to do, or where to park, I wondered if I should even go shopping anymore. This is the bad side effect to a good imagination. I mean, in the movie version of this scene, people who still went in the store would most likely be killed somehow, right? I was reminded of a late-night grocery store errand last year. That time, I drove into the almost deserted parking lot, and noticed some sort of hazmat truck, people in full bodysuits, masks, long hoses, and large canisters. That night, I turned around and drove to a nearby grocery store. I know that movie, or maybe that Stephen King book. Nope.

But, somehow today, I kept driving. I ended up with a front row seat to 4 police cars surrounding an SUV, several officers talking to 3 people.

I called Mr. Thought and said, “I was going to go to Kohl’s to buy you some surprise sneakers, but. . .”

Then there was a pat down.

A handcuffing.

A riffling through Kohl’s bags and a holding up of purses.

Another pat down.

I drove away — but just to another parking spot. Mr. Thought really needed new sneakers.